LEXINGTON, Ky. (FOX 56) – A community is still lost for words and trying to pick up the pieces from last week’s double murder in Lexington.

Police said a 13-year-old boy and his 5-year-old sister were stabbed to death by their own mother.

So how do you get past such a tragedy?

The biggest concern for parents is what to say or even how to talk to their own children who were friends with the two who were murdered.

“One in every 10 kids in Kentucky will lose a parent or sibling before the age of 18 and there are so many grieving kids out there,” said Executive Director Leila Salisbury, Kentucky Center for Grieving Children and Families.


“Talking to kids about death, loss, is hard, and talking about death makes most people especially adults uncomfortable,” said Salisbury.

The children both attended Fayette County Public Schools. The stabbings happened at an apartment on Rogers Road in Lexington.

The neighborhood is full of children who were classmates with the victims. Now parents are trying to figure out how to tell their kids about the tragedy.

“We do not know what to say, we are afraid of something that will make the child or adult more sad and the reality is that person is already sad because they have lost someone who is important to them,” said Salisbury.

The Kentucky Center for Grieving Children and Families said the conversations can be tough. But, should be direct.

“Ask them how does that make them feel, ‘What do you worry about?’. The child may say, ‘You, my mother, are going to kill me too.’ Again these may feel like uncomfortable conversations but they are necessary,” said Salisbury.

Salisbury said a child’s mind is literal and you have to be careful with phrases like “they are in a better place.”

“If they think their friend has gone to somewhere better they will think hey I want to go there,” said Salisbury.

Shawn Pryor was Deon’s mentor and art teacher. He said the tragedy has changed the way he will connect with his students.

“I am really connected with those kids, especially Deon. Those kids mean everything to me. That school means a lot to me and it has taught me how important serving the community and help lift the youth,” said Pryor.

For more resources on how to help your child grieve click here.